The world teaches us to shout. Social media rewards sarcasm. Boardrooms reward dominance. Even in the Church, we sometimes applaud power over humility. But here’s a truth I’ve carried since I was a teen—a quote clipped from an old newspaper:
“In a time when everything is thought to be had by intimidation, gentleness still has amazing strength. It has never been wise to underestimate the person who has compassion and understanding and the gift of showing it.
Hard talk is not a sign of superior ability, but it does show a weakness in character. The need to put someone else down in hopes of looking good reveals a deficient personality.
Few can resist the power of communication, the gentle friendliness of making everyone feel they are a part of the rank and order. Teamwork has always been about mutual respect, a show of confidence, and a willingness to help. If we lose the gentle touch, we lose control, and little else counts from that point on.”
The Bible backs that up. Gentleness isn’t weakness—it’s one of the nine traits that prove the Holy Spirit is working in our lives:
“But the fruit of the Spirit is… kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.” (Galatians 5:22–23, NKJV)
It’s not optional. It’s evidence.
A second line from that quote drives it home:
“Hard talk is not a sign of superior ability, but it does show a weakness in character.”
There’s a reason Scripture tells us:
“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1, NKJV)
Gentleness is the secret ingredient that holds marriages together, creates harmony in ministry teams, and cultivates respect in leadership. When it’s missing, trust breaks. Communication dies. Influence shrinks.
Jesus modeled it perfectly. In Matthew 11:29, He invites us to learn from Him:
“Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” (NKJV)
If the Son of God could walk in gentleness while carrying all authority in heaven and earth—what’s our excuse?
Ask Yourself Today:
- Do I speak to win arguments or to build people up?
- When I’m leading, am I inviting or intimidating?
- Where can I choose kindness over control?
Prayer:
Lord, grow in me the strength to be gentle. Let Your Spirit bear that fruit in my life—in how I speak, how I lead, and how I love. Amen.
